lunes, 19 de mayo de 2014

The pain of our children



A fearful and apprehensive adult is toxic to almost everyone, especially for children. The good news is that resilience also overcomes the bad consequences of having parents who are not able to be.

A definition of resilience is: In psychology, a person's ability to overcome traumatic circumstances such as death of a loved one, an accident, etc..

It is well known that living things have some kind of defense against attackers or accidents frequently. If these mechanisms we protect us from the most frequent difficulties that we are esterándonos a probabilistic advantage as our greatest risk is concentrated precisely what we are less likely to occur.

As our psyche is prepared to exaggerate the dangers and protections to minimize the subjective perception is the inverse of the real: we believe that we run many dangers very likely threats.

In short, we have better defenses against what is likely to happen and we have worse defenses against what is very likely that we will never occur. We loved it! This situation makes us love Nature as a great friend, mother, protective.

Therefore, when we are in charge of a child care, we should not lose sight of this. If we consider not fall into the infamous neurosis. With this disease distort almost everything: what we perceive, what we assess, what we expect.

Although the video is another theme emphasizes core, in this article we rounding the idea saying neurosis is contagious because children learn from adults. If these evil assess risks exist, the child will grow up distrusting everything, thinking that the deadly quiet is not the only solution to premature death.

Moreover: the alarmists adults have low frustration tolerance and consider almost everything that makes a little bad, rebuke him excessively, harass (bullying), destabilizes emotionally.

A fearful and apprehensive adult is toxic to almost everyone, especially for children. The good news is that resilience also overcomes the bad consequences of having parents who are not able to be.

Note: Original in Spanish (without translation by Google): El dolor de nuestros hijos.
 
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