We filed three types of childhood experiences that largely support in adulthood fall into loss of self-esteem, to distrust the love we feel and love to tell us that we breathe in, we have a depressing view of what is living and what is attempting to give life to new individuals of the species.
Many people believe that childhood is a stage of life in which many peculiarities design and determine what will be our personality.
Indeed, psychoanalysis emphasizes the adventures lived in those days and when the patient can remember and resignificarlas, (you understand the adult mentality), significant changes in the psychology of the individual.
As always, it becomes important which creates discomfort and less interesting all the good that we live in that time.
It is worth recalling three types of experiences:
1) Our tender love for our parents, it was healthy, genuine, the best of us, but when we intended to marry our mom or our dad, felt a painful, unwarranted, searing condemnation.
Hardly anyone was lucky enough to explain why it was not good to start a family with a family. Ignorance of the parents on what are the reasons for the prohibition of incest became fools, violent, brutal and that convinced us that our loving feelings are dangerous by nature, because, without explanation. For most it was the idea that we should be wary of our best intentions. Our first love proposal was rejected mercilessly.
2) All our innate wisdom found that our loved ones not validated, they sent us to school to relearn what adult dominant thought. Our wisdom was discredited, despised, some even mocked her. In school we were told what were the beliefs and valuable, in fact, we were told that our knowledge will not work.
This story is logical that some adults have to study rejection, distrust of teachers and professors, books phobia, dread sitting examinations. In this state, knowledge is a source of pain, shame, rejection, wound our pride.
3) Humans are selfish, we have to be so poor and vulnerable we are. The child is educated, trained, discipline to not be selfish, to serve their toys even those he loves.
Adults are likely to be so petty, but hypocritically solidarity and charity, because it was once violated our survival instinct forcing us to let go of what most wanted to keep. These traumatic experiences made us hypocrites, liars and greedy to hide their greed.
These three types of childhood experiences largely support in adulthood fall into loss of self-esteem, to distrust the love we feel and love to tell us that we breathe in, we have a depressing view of what is living and what is attempting to give life to new individuals of the species.
Note: Original in Spanish (without translation by Google): El corazón de la personalidad.
(Este es el Artículo Nº 2.207)